Yes, Another 4 of 5 Post

I just got off the phone with 4 of 5's speech therapist. I got an IEP form home from school last week stating that she had not met her goals for her IEP. Well, I wrote a note back asking for a meeting to discuss her next set of goal, and to see what I could do to help her. I got a call from her to set a meeting and she told me that we didn't really need a meeting because the reason she didn't make her goals was because they set the goals too high. She told me that with the progress she was making, if they had 3 more months to work with her, she would be able to make her goals. Then she told me (well reminded me) of her goals, being, form complete sentences that we intelligible. This coming from the beginning of the year, when she was almost completely non verbal. I remember thinking, yeah, good luck. She also told me that she had made 18 months of progress in the 6 months she had worked for with her, and she was able to grasp concepts easier than any of the other kids with DS that she had worked with. I thought maybe she was just trying to make me feel good, but then I realized, what good would that do anyone? The EI therapist told us the same thing when she was coming to the house from 0-3 years old.
I let myself be proud of her, I know she is bright, and I know that she is capable. Then the reality set in. I realize that the more she is aware of, the more she will be aware of what she cannot do, or may not ever do. Date, drive, I would say read, but After today, I know she will do that. Probably with a lot of extra help, but that's what I'm here for. I don't worry about those things, for my sake. But, for her, will that make her sad, will she care. I know these things are better not worried about right now, but I have found through out her life, I have projected a lot with her. It is easier for me to live in the moment with my other 4. But I tend to "what if" a lot with her. Only when I get progress reports for her, other times I can just let her be who she is, and not worry about 10-15 years down the road.
So for right now, way to go 4 of 5. I have always been proud of her. I am grateful for the ability to raise her, and I'm honored that she chose to be part of our little family.